My motivation (Refined)
So here's the long-waited post about my motivation. It's been almost one month since I said that I'm going to write a post about motivation. I procrastinated and that is quite an irony. Ok, firstly, I would say different strokes for different folks, what applies to me, may or may not applies to other people. So everybody gonna identify their own source of motivation. With that being said, I will start off with some of my background information. There are many factors in life that will affect on how a person is going turn out to be. And in my opinion family upbringing plays a big part of it all. For me, I came from a doing-ok, middle class family. Though my parent's relationship was once on the brink of breaking apart and they remained distant after that, it did not affect me negatively, as I was sensible enough not to detour into the wrong path. Moreover, as being a Chinese, inevitably there were a lot of values, virtues and morals were instilled in me when I was little, and I'm still glad that I was taught of those values which mould me into the person I am today. I was an introvert when I was young. I didn't talked much, and felt shy whenever I was around with people. I was timid. I was scared of quite a lot of things when I was young, and my biggest fear is the fear of teachers, the ultimate authority figures, which I fear more than my parents (haha). I was a not-so-clever person. My learning progress was slow, it took me a few days to just memorize the number 1 to 10 down pad, not to mention that my result was always at the bottom of the class when I was in Primary one. However, knowing my shortcomings, inadequacy in numbers of aspects in myself, as well as the fear of not living up to my parent's and teacher's expectation, I worked doubly hard for everything, spent extra time on things that I could not understand, and kept trying when I failed. It was when I was in primary 3, my hard work had paid off, I got top in class for first time, which I didn't thought I was able to do it, not in my wildest imagination. From there on, I started to realise that being the first is not something that is out of my reach, it is possible. So fears has driven me, fears of not being adequate, not being able to meet the standards from parent and fears of feeling inferior to peers had driven me to not stay in the status quo but make a change and achieve the impossible. I called those positive fears.
Fear
You see when we dealing with fear, we have to deal with it smartly. I would say not all fears we could be of use as a motivation. Some fears are just too overwhelming, it cripples us, for the worse, it might send us right into depression. For example, if you are afraid of cockroach, there is no point of overcoming that fear by, let say, holding it in your hands, that doesn't help you in any way. Most of time, the most accessible source of motivation we could find is the fear of failure, not able to achieve what you want to achieve. Just imagine yourself that what would it be like to continue being a failure, feeling inferior? incapable? Then imagine how good could it felt if you just overcome your obstacles and get out of the predicament. It surely empowers you, gives you much of a boost to mental wills and desire to succeed instantly.
Love
Besides fears, we could also use love as a source of motivation. Not being mushy here, but it is true that often times, we would do more, go extra mile for our love ones. Be it, the love for families, to provide for them, to take care of them; or love for friends, to cheer each other on, have each other's back; or love for partners, love unconditionally, even if just to see them smile a little bit wider, we are willing to sacrifice. Be honest, the initial reason for me so eagerly to improve my English was because of a girl I'd liked. I wanted to better my English so that I could communicate better with her thus have a deeper connection with her. It would be really a pity if language barrier is the one thing that keeps two peoples apart, that is so frustrating and saddening. Although, nothing happened to us in the end, but it didn't stop my determination for mastering English. So love is powerful, Love makes you do things that you wouldn't think of doing.
Goal
People ought to have goals in life, have a life with purpose. Otherwise living will be just a living, not living the life. Having a realistic goal is really good for our mental health, it means that we have something to look forward to, it signifies hope; to work hard, to achieve and to taste the fruit of labors, hence there will be anticipations. Life without hopes or anticipations is just terrifying, we can't live with that. Therefore, goals motivate us and remind us of our purpose of living.
In conclusion, motivation is an essential part to successful and fulfilling life. With motivation, we are able to achieve greater heights, heights that we could never imagined. So that's all for my big talk. Hope this could help you in whatever ways and hope that you could feel more driven by now.
Nights.
Fear
You see when we dealing with fear, we have to deal with it smartly. I would say not all fears we could be of use as a motivation. Some fears are just too overwhelming, it cripples us, for the worse, it might send us right into depression. For example, if you are afraid of cockroach, there is no point of overcoming that fear by, let say, holding it in your hands, that doesn't help you in any way. Most of time, the most accessible source of motivation we could find is the fear of failure, not able to achieve what you want to achieve. Just imagine yourself that what would it be like to continue being a failure, feeling inferior? incapable? Then imagine how good could it felt if you just overcome your obstacles and get out of the predicament. It surely empowers you, gives you much of a boost to mental wills and desire to succeed instantly.
Love
Besides fears, we could also use love as a source of motivation. Not being mushy here, but it is true that often times, we would do more, go extra mile for our love ones. Be it, the love for families, to provide for them, to take care of them; or love for friends, to cheer each other on, have each other's back; or love for partners, love unconditionally, even if just to see them smile a little bit wider, we are willing to sacrifice. Be honest, the initial reason for me so eagerly to improve my English was because of a girl I'd liked. I wanted to better my English so that I could communicate better with her thus have a deeper connection with her. It would be really a pity if language barrier is the one thing that keeps two peoples apart, that is so frustrating and saddening. Although, nothing happened to us in the end, but it didn't stop my determination for mastering English. So love is powerful, Love makes you do things that you wouldn't think of doing.
Goal
People ought to have goals in life, have a life with purpose. Otherwise living will be just a living, not living the life. Having a realistic goal is really good for our mental health, it means that we have something to look forward to, it signifies hope; to work hard, to achieve and to taste the fruit of labors, hence there will be anticipations. Life without hopes or anticipations is just terrifying, we can't live with that. Therefore, goals motivate us and remind us of our purpose of living.
In conclusion, motivation is an essential part to successful and fulfilling life. With motivation, we are able to achieve greater heights, heights that we could never imagined. So that's all for my big talk. Hope this could help you in whatever ways and hope that you could feel more driven by now.
Nights.
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